Posted by jimmy on April 6, 2011 · Leave a Comment
In my book, Moral Values: What I Learned Growing Up in Church, (available as an eBook), I ask the question: “Can the Christian church, divided over different beliefs about moral values, create safe places so people can live together in love?” My answer, in part, includes a “Safe Place Covenant” to guide congregations in learning [...]
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Posted by jimmy on February 19, 2010 · Leave a Comment
Emotional maturity means that we respond appropriately to the other person in a conflicted situation. One technique I taught in business seminars on conflict resolution was what someone called “the 2-minute vent.” The idea is that very few people can “vent” their anger for more than 2 minutes. No matter how angry people are, if [...]
Posted by jimmy on January 22, 2010 · Leave a Comment
Emotional maturity begins with being aware of what we’re feeling. That awareness often begins in our bodies, with what we feel physically. For instance, I know that when my back muscles – from the neck through the shoulders and down to the lower back – are tight and hurting that I am feeling anxious, worried, [...]